Saturday, September 29, 2007
Friday, September 28, 2007
chapter sums
chapter 1
thinking critically takes certain skills such as organization, analyzing, evaluations, applying and critical reading. for example, organizing can add strength to your ideas by gathering details or observations. applying what is known and whats learned can help show and relate things. being thorough and open minded is reading critically. these techniques are helpful to becoming a critical thinker.
chapther 2
before getting started gain an understanding of the assignment such as fact finding. after the facts are gathered select topic and collect information on the subject. use a getting started checklist as a guide to help plan your writing.
chapter 3
when planning an essay there are two thinking objectivies. establish a thhesis or focus for your writing and organize supporting information. find a focus, narrow it down to specifics, and state your thesis. its important to let your thesis guide you. a planning checklist is helpful for writing. use it, it works.
chapter 4
drafting is important when writing an essay. there are several important aspects to drafting. writing a first draft is important to a better essay. following these steps are helpful and they are opining your draft. developing the middle, and ending your draft. be sure to use the drafting checklist and writing activities.
chapter 5
revise yor work all your information that has been gathered in approiate time. dont spend to much time on revising, there are other step that are more important. make sure to use a checklist for future revising.
chapter 6
proofreading ia great tool to use. its used to correct spelling, run on sentceses, and among grammatical errors. when finished writing paper go back proof read to make sure all points are there. also ask a friend to proofred your paper, they may be able to find something you may of mised. proofeading leads to better eesays which then lead to better grades.
chapter 7
submitting is turning in your paper showing it with audances like family or friends. we use submitting methods in this class, in forms of electronic submission which is basically an email. a writing protfolio is another way of submitting. it shows your writting skills.
chapter 8
the writers process is a format followed by the author. for example planning drafting, revising and the rest of the chapters in this books. make sure to use a checklist. it helps
narative paper
I interviewed a thirty year old female of who has been a friend of my family for many years. She is recently divorced after being married for over ten years, an abusive marriage that she kept a secret and that she hid from everyone in her life until recently. Although I was aware that her marriage was abusive she has never spoken to me about the details of the abuse or any specific situations in which the abuse occurred until now. She described to me in detail a specific incident that occurred towards the end of her marriage. In order to describe the situation as accurate and keep her situation as confidential as possible I have used alias names in place of her and her husband’s names.
Ezra began her story by describing to me how she saw the change in her husband’s demeanor and knew what was coming to her before this particular time of abuse. It was only a slight alteration, but she’d come to know the signs well. She didn't even have the chance to move aside before Marty's fist hit her square in the face, knocking her off her feet. He then followed it up with several kicks to Ezra's ribs and stomach. As quickly as the violence had started, though, it was over. She described that as usual, at that point she was in a daze and hadn't noticed that things had suddenly stopped and gone quiet. Realization only came when she felt hands on her body as he began checking her for serious damage. “I'm sorry, I didn't mean it. Let me help you, baby. I won't ever hurt you again, I swear”, he apologized when he saw the blood from her smashed nose. She quickly got up and hurried as fast as she could to the bathroom, her usual hiding after his violence. Once in the bathroom she began to throw up and realized that her ribs were either cracked or broken from the intense pain while becoming sick. Marty began consistently knocking on the door and begging to be let in. Ezra ignored the begging, and threw up again. She described how at that time she began to question the reasons for the abuse, as she did every time that Marty hurt her. She then cleaned up and then took some time to get settled before opening the door to find Marty still hovering anxiously outside sweetly asking her if he could help. She told him that she needed to get to work trying to leave as fast as possible, but then he told her that he had made her some breakfast and to eat before she left. He then began pleading saying “You won't say anything about what I did, will you? You know I didn't mean it”. She then replied that she would not and reassured him that she knew that he loved her. She described that she never knew what set the man off in the first place, and that he was a very volatile man. She also described that he was mainly kind, but possessed a very violent streak. However, when anyone had asked about them, the injuries had been easily explained away as simple accidents.
Telling the details of this incident was not easy for my volunteer. It did seem to bring some horrific memories back up to the surface for her, which I noticed by her body language to the trembling in her voice. Her psychical body reactions when describing the most horrific details of the physical abuse and the bloody results seemed as if she was actually reliving those moments step by step in her mind. Her face became red and then cold and clammy and then again back to flushed red. Her body showed signs of major anxiety throughout the entire interview, constantly shifting and unable to sit comfortably. But towards the end of her story there was an obvious shift of calmness and security that seemed to run through her body and mind. Slowly she seemed less anxious, regained appropriate skin tone and the trembling in her voice faded away. And at the end of the story she ended by telling me how a sense of relief and safety ran through her body when she was finished describing the incident.
While listening to the detailed description of the incident the initial feelings and thoughts that arose for me was shock as to the amount of physical abuse that she endured, and also intense sadness and sorrow towards her. I felt so helpless and out of control in that I could not reach into her story and save her from the amount of hurt and pain that she was going through, but at the same time wanting to punish her husband for putting her through so much. There was a point towards the end of her story when she described his apologetic nature that I did shed a few silent tears, in my mind I was there with her in that moment and felt the extreme confusion and also love and sorrow that she felt for him. I felt the desperateness that she felt in wanting him to truly be sorry and not be responsible for his actions and believe that it would never happen again. I was surprised the overwhelming amount of these feelings and thoughts that I felt with her where present more than the feelings of anger and punishment that I felt towards her husband. And a part of me wanted to feel more hate and anger towards her husband, but sitting there with her it in that moment feeling every ounce of emotion that she felt was impossible due to her obvious struggle that she fought within herself to believe that he did love her and that he had a problem that she could help and fix. When she finished describing her incident of abuse, a deep connection of sadness, acceptance, and relief came between us. Not much was spoken, and did not need to be spoken, it was apparent to both of us that this since of survival and heartache was felt within both of us.
The incident described demonstrated physical abuse, emotional abuse, and I would infer that it also caused psychological damage. The way that her husband had a pattern of apologizing, confessing his love and sorrow for what he had done, but also keeping control of her by “nicely” telling her not to mention the incident to anyone. Because of this control, in her mind she made excuses for him in her mind, reminding herself constantly that he was a kind and good man and that he loved her. This psychological and emotional control was so strong that even after receiving a beating so bad that left her with damaged ribs and a crushed nose, she stated that she told herself that he loved her and only had a violent streak. It is in my opinion that this intense emotional and psychological abuse and control did so much damage throughout the years and put her in an almost confused state of mind that made the decision of leaving far from clear or easy for her. It seems that her husband’s pattern of being apologetic after the abuse put them into the “honeymoon” phase, which seemed to give some sense of hope to her that things might get better or that he was truly sorry. In threatening and survival situations, we look for evidence of hope – a small sign that the situation may improve. When an abuser/controller shows the victim some small kindness, even though it is to the abusers benefit as well, the victim interprets that small kindness as a positive trait of the captor. In relationships with abusers, a gift (usually provided after a period of abuse), or a special treat are interpreted as not only positive, but evidence that the abuser is not "all bad" and may at some time correct his behavior. And in this situation it seems that his gift might have been making her breakfast after the abuse.
Sympathy may develop toward the abuser and we often hear of the victim defending their abuser. Abusers may admit they need help or acknowledge they were wrong; however, it's almost always after they have already abused or intimidated the victim. The admission is a way of denying responsibility for the abuse. It is my assumption based on what we know about most domestic violence situations is that she remained and supported the abusive relationship due to her long investments in the relationship, being married for ten years. The different types of investments typically put into relationships although abusive weigh heavy, including emotional investment, social investments, family investments, financial investments, lifestyle investments and also intimacy investments.
Repetitive acts tend to complex trauma. Abusive communications can be very subtle, and although major trauma does not generally result from a single incident of abusive communication, over time repetitive abuses can have a major traumatic impact. It seems that in this case because the emotional abuse, which is the result of abusive communication, the impact is more devastating to her emotional well-being than the overt physically demonstrated act of abuse. Although I am not aware of how she did finally break away from the cycle of abuse, it was obvious that she was a survivor and not ashamed of what has happened to her. She is primarily focused on herself and who she is, a strong and intelligent survivor.
activities
certain skills are needed for any field of study. to succsed in english class, stratages are useful . i use some of them for writing. for example. i map my ideas. i apply my ideas. i also use a checklist. these stratages help me organize my thoughts.
family is very important to the developement of any childbut, growing up without parents can be difficult
in 1776 the U.S. got its freedom but, it wasnt easy. the wars took a toll on the american causing all kind of problems.
to keep a healthy heart diet and exersize is key. without any exersize the heart will eventually stop working. there are certain ways to exersize and keep the heart healthy.
the authors talking about the chinese language and how she nows it. she uses several stratagies in her last paragraph. she advances her thesis by providing more history on her knowledge on the language. she also supports her main idea.
dogs can be difficult to train, but they like to please thier owners.
dogs can be difficult to train, but a well trained dog is a pleasure to its owner and to others
dogs can be diificukt to train, patiance is a neccsity.
dogs can be difficult to train, the neccessary supplies include a leash and treats.
thinking critically takes certain skills such as organization, analyzing, evaluations, applying and critical reading. for example, organizing can add strength to your ideas by gathering details or observations. applying what is known and whats learned can help show and relate things. being thorough and open minded is reading critically. these techniques are helpful to becoming a critical thinker.
chapther 2
before getting started gain an understanding of the assignment such as fact finding. after the facts are gathered select topic and collect information on the subject. use a getting started checklist as a guide to help plan your writing.
chapter 3
when planning an essay there are two thinking objectivies. establish a thhesis or focus for your writing and organize supporting information. find a focus, narrow it down to specifics, and state your thesis. its important to let your thesis guide you. a planning checklist is helpful for writing. use it, it works.
chapter 4
drafting is important when writing an essay. there are several important aspects to drafting. writing a first draft is important to a better essay. following these steps are helpful and they are opining your draft. developing the middle, and ending your draft. be sure to use the drafting checklist and writing activities.
chapter 5
revise yor work all your information that has been gathered in approiate time. dont spend to much time on revising, there are other step that are more important. make sure to use a checklist for future revising.
chapter 6
proofreading ia great tool to use. its used to correct spelling, run on sentceses, and among grammatical errors. when finished writing paper go back proof read to make sure all points are there. also ask a friend to proofred your paper, they may be able to find something you may of mised. proofeading leads to better eesays which then lead to better grades.
chapter 7
submitting is turning in your paper showing it with audances like family or friends. we use submitting methods in this class, in forms of electronic submission which is basically an email. a writing protfolio is another way of submitting. it shows your writting skills.
chapter 8
the writers process is a format followed by the author. for example planning drafting, revising and the rest of the chapters in this books. make sure to use a checklist. it helps
narative paper
I interviewed a thirty year old female of who has been a friend of my family for many years. She is recently divorced after being married for over ten years, an abusive marriage that she kept a secret and that she hid from everyone in her life until recently. Although I was aware that her marriage was abusive she has never spoken to me about the details of the abuse or any specific situations in which the abuse occurred until now. She described to me in detail a specific incident that occurred towards the end of her marriage. In order to describe the situation as accurate and keep her situation as confidential as possible I have used alias names in place of her and her husband’s names.
Ezra began her story by describing to me how she saw the change in her husband’s demeanor and knew what was coming to her before this particular time of abuse. It was only a slight alteration, but she’d come to know the signs well. She didn't even have the chance to move aside before Marty's fist hit her square in the face, knocking her off her feet. He then followed it up with several kicks to Ezra's ribs and stomach. As quickly as the violence had started, though, it was over. She described that as usual, at that point she was in a daze and hadn't noticed that things had suddenly stopped and gone quiet. Realization only came when she felt hands on her body as he began checking her for serious damage. “I'm sorry, I didn't mean it. Let me help you, baby. I won't ever hurt you again, I swear”, he apologized when he saw the blood from her smashed nose. She quickly got up and hurried as fast as she could to the bathroom, her usual hiding after his violence. Once in the bathroom she began to throw up and realized that her ribs were either cracked or broken from the intense pain while becoming sick. Marty began consistently knocking on the door and begging to be let in. Ezra ignored the begging, and threw up again. She described how at that time she began to question the reasons for the abuse, as she did every time that Marty hurt her. She then cleaned up and then took some time to get settled before opening the door to find Marty still hovering anxiously outside sweetly asking her if he could help. She told him that she needed to get to work trying to leave as fast as possible, but then he told her that he had made her some breakfast and to eat before she left. He then began pleading saying “You won't say anything about what I did, will you? You know I didn't mean it”. She then replied that she would not and reassured him that she knew that he loved her. She described that she never knew what set the man off in the first place, and that he was a very volatile man. She also described that he was mainly kind, but possessed a very violent streak. However, when anyone had asked about them, the injuries had been easily explained away as simple accidents.
Telling the details of this incident was not easy for my volunteer. It did seem to bring some horrific memories back up to the surface for her, which I noticed by her body language to the trembling in her voice. Her psychical body reactions when describing the most horrific details of the physical abuse and the bloody results seemed as if she was actually reliving those moments step by step in her mind. Her face became red and then cold and clammy and then again back to flushed red. Her body showed signs of major anxiety throughout the entire interview, constantly shifting and unable to sit comfortably. But towards the end of her story there was an obvious shift of calmness and security that seemed to run through her body and mind. Slowly she seemed less anxious, regained appropriate skin tone and the trembling in her voice faded away. And at the end of the story she ended by telling me how a sense of relief and safety ran through her body when she was finished describing the incident.
While listening to the detailed description of the incident the initial feelings and thoughts that arose for me was shock as to the amount of physical abuse that she endured, and also intense sadness and sorrow towards her. I felt so helpless and out of control in that I could not reach into her story and save her from the amount of hurt and pain that she was going through, but at the same time wanting to punish her husband for putting her through so much. There was a point towards the end of her story when she described his apologetic nature that I did shed a few silent tears, in my mind I was there with her in that moment and felt the extreme confusion and also love and sorrow that she felt for him. I felt the desperateness that she felt in wanting him to truly be sorry and not be responsible for his actions and believe that it would never happen again. I was surprised the overwhelming amount of these feelings and thoughts that I felt with her where present more than the feelings of anger and punishment that I felt towards her husband. And a part of me wanted to feel more hate and anger towards her husband, but sitting there with her it in that moment feeling every ounce of emotion that she felt was impossible due to her obvious struggle that she fought within herself to believe that he did love her and that he had a problem that she could help and fix. When she finished describing her incident of abuse, a deep connection of sadness, acceptance, and relief came between us. Not much was spoken, and did not need to be spoken, it was apparent to both of us that this since of survival and heartache was felt within both of us.
The incident described demonstrated physical abuse, emotional abuse, and I would infer that it also caused psychological damage. The way that her husband had a pattern of apologizing, confessing his love and sorrow for what he had done, but also keeping control of her by “nicely” telling her not to mention the incident to anyone. Because of this control, in her mind she made excuses for him in her mind, reminding herself constantly that he was a kind and good man and that he loved her. This psychological and emotional control was so strong that even after receiving a beating so bad that left her with damaged ribs and a crushed nose, she stated that she told herself that he loved her and only had a violent streak. It is in my opinion that this intense emotional and psychological abuse and control did so much damage throughout the years and put her in an almost confused state of mind that made the decision of leaving far from clear or easy for her. It seems that her husband’s pattern of being apologetic after the abuse put them into the “honeymoon” phase, which seemed to give some sense of hope to her that things might get better or that he was truly sorry. In threatening and survival situations, we look for evidence of hope – a small sign that the situation may improve. When an abuser/controller shows the victim some small kindness, even though it is to the abusers benefit as well, the victim interprets that small kindness as a positive trait of the captor. In relationships with abusers, a gift (usually provided after a period of abuse), or a special treat are interpreted as not only positive, but evidence that the abuser is not "all bad" and may at some time correct his behavior. And in this situation it seems that his gift might have been making her breakfast after the abuse.
Sympathy may develop toward the abuser and we often hear of the victim defending their abuser. Abusers may admit they need help or acknowledge they were wrong; however, it's almost always after they have already abused or intimidated the victim. The admission is a way of denying responsibility for the abuse. It is my assumption based on what we know about most domestic violence situations is that she remained and supported the abusive relationship due to her long investments in the relationship, being married for ten years. The different types of investments typically put into relationships although abusive weigh heavy, including emotional investment, social investments, family investments, financial investments, lifestyle investments and also intimacy investments.
Repetitive acts tend to complex trauma. Abusive communications can be very subtle, and although major trauma does not generally result from a single incident of abusive communication, over time repetitive abuses can have a major traumatic impact. It seems that in this case because the emotional abuse, which is the result of abusive communication, the impact is more devastating to her emotional well-being than the overt physically demonstrated act of abuse. Although I am not aware of how she did finally break away from the cycle of abuse, it was obvious that she was a survivor and not ashamed of what has happened to her. She is primarily focused on herself and who she is, a strong and intelligent survivor.
activities
certain skills are needed for any field of study. to succsed in english class, stratages are useful . i use some of them for writing. for example. i map my ideas. i apply my ideas. i also use a checklist. these stratages help me organize my thoughts.
family is very important to the developement of any childbut, growing up without parents can be difficult
in 1776 the U.S. got its freedom but, it wasnt easy. the wars took a toll on the american causing all kind of problems.
to keep a healthy heart diet and exersize is key. without any exersize the heart will eventually stop working. there are certain ways to exersize and keep the heart healthy.
the authors talking about the chinese language and how she nows it. she uses several stratagies in her last paragraph. she advances her thesis by providing more history on her knowledge on the language. she also supports her main idea.
dogs can be difficult to train, but they like to please thier owners.
dogs can be difficult to train, but a well trained dog is a pleasure to its owner and to others
dogs can be diificukt to train, patiance is a neccsity.
dogs can be difficult to train, the neccessary supplies include a leash and treats.
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